Friend who is a fitness trainer posted Jack's Unhappy People video which led to my watching Jack's 10 points. Funny if we had all been listening to Jack all along, the US probably wouldn't be in such overweight shape now. Reviewing his 10 points, I think I've got it covered, though there is always room for self-improvement.
I've been listening to an overwhelming number of the free webinars on health, wealth, LOA that are now available. There are more than I can keep up with, January being the traditional month when we all decide to make resolutions for the new year. My inbox if filled with trainers selling their programs for the new year, all ways that could possibly help with your goals, if you follow through, but all designed to make your wallet a bit lighter. Tom Venuto had a couple of posts that were key...focus on the deficit, i.e., it boils down to calories in/calories out no matter what diet plan or lifestyle change you choose. Second, as you are successful at losing the weight, then one needs to recalibrate as you will need fewer calories in to maintain your new body. So unfortunately for us shorter people, it's harder to maintain a large deficit as generally most diet plans have a minimum number of calories they suggest which is usually 1200. Many of the webcasts I've listened to talk about the subconcious and how they may be sabotaging your success. I do remember years ago, parenting advice that said focus on the positive when working with children, for example instead of 'don't run', 'please walk' as the child's brain doesn't interpret the negative as easily so instead of your child slowing down, she'd run faster. I think this can apply in other areas of our life. I started thinking about what I tell myself about making my goal of 50 kilos.
Okay, so a little CRS (Can't Remember Stuff) :-)  When I started this post I knew the phrase, then forgot it, but I've remembered it again. It is to say I am WORKING on rather than TRYING TO be 50 kilos. Working means I make better choices. Trying means if I slip up, well I was ONLY trying and perhaps not making a real effort. 
An update to my coconut experiment...of my three volunteers, all male, one in his late 30's, the other two in their 50's, one reported, after just a week that his skinny jeans were so skinny any more. One of the 50 somethings lost 3 pounds the first week and said his skin was better...he must suffer through cold Illinois winters. Unfortunately, my third volunteer had to stop as the coconut oil was giving him heartburn. I have not been as diligent about my daily consumption, however, I think there's been a shift in my body fat. My weight goal for the year is to drop the last 5 pounds so the target is 50 KG, 110 pounds. I've been listening & reading to the raw foodists, the paleo people and more just to see what I'm willing to tweak. It really is about lifestyle change and how much you are willing to change your lifestyle to accomplish your goals. On the fitness front, more plyometrics and a little more diligence on the weight training and cardio. Also been slipping on the yoga practice during the holidays so that needs to be back on track as I'm thinking a 500 hour training course in the fall.